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Reflections and References

26 Sunday Oct 2008

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Arabia, Damascus, Grand Mufti, Poetry, Sufi

This image appeared on the glass of the coffee table, bringing  outside leaves into the room. An Arabic shadda  – added in photoshop – turns the upside down autumn skyscape into a joyful word for Unity.

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Here are the references from the radio show: Sufism: the Heart of Islam with Wendy McLaughlin. I mentioned Karen Armstrong, Muhammad, A Prophet for our Time; Martin Lings, Muhammad, His Life Based on the Earliest Sources; and Reza Azlan, No god but God. These all have general material on Muhammad’s wives and daughters. I forgot to mention the classic: Nabia Abbott, Aisha, the Beloved of Muhammad.

If you search farther into the primary sources – Muhammad Ibn Sa’d, The Women of Medina; Al-Tabari, The History of al-Tabari (in thirty-some volumes); A. Guillaume’s translation of Ibn Ishaq’s Sirat Rasul Allah (The Life of Muhammad); and the Alim, CD ROM (for Hadith). Gordon Newby wrote A History of the Jews of Arabia.  From here on, road leads into road…. Ya Fattah (may the way open!)

The CD’s played on the show are: White Shade Cloud and The Woman with Muhammad – to order contact http://www.marinsufis.com   click on – music for sale and Hear a sample! There will be a link to Wendy’s show here soon.

Damascus. One my favorite places on earth. May it be protected! See May archive for my visit to the Mosque of the Grand Mufti.

Interview on KWMR, Sufi Radio show Monday

23 Thursday Oct 2008

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This coming Monday October 27th at 5:30 PM West Coast time I’m being interviewed about my forthcoming book, Married to Muhammad,  by Wendy McLaughlin for sufiradio show on KWMR. You can find it on the internet atwww.kwmr.org, clicking on the ON AIR sign under the cow.  On the radio in the Bay Area, it’s 90.5 FM in most of Marin and 89.7 FM in Bolinas and SF.

Married to Muhammad

11 Monday Aug 2008

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For almost a decade I have felt a growing mandate to demystify the women married to Muhammad. At this time, more than ever, we need to know about the cultural origins of our sisters on the other side of the globe. These untranslated women, who stood in the first light of Islam, have buried stories. Here are several: Khadija is a wealthy businesswoman who hires young Muhammad; Hafsa is saved from divorce by Angel Gabriel, Zaynab, a married first cousin, experiences a moment of passion with Muhammad, Umm Salama saves a vital peace treaty and Aisha tells of death of the Prophet. These are stories known in the Arab-speaking world. My book of poems and history is called Married to Muhammad: Untold History of the Prophet’s Wives. I am fortunate to have good resources: rudimentary Qu’ranic Arabic study; scholarly guidance, travel in the Middle East, and three decades as a seeker on the path of American Sufism.

The project was conceived after an inspired time with Moroccan Sufi women, sharing their bold, joyful gatherings. I began to research the Prophet’s wives, and was drawn into the historically based poem. I respectfully endeavor to glimpse and share the lives of these amazing and powerful women who witnessed Muhammad’s daily life at a time when “Islam” meant peaceful surrender of one’s heart to God.

Update

05 Thursday Jun 2008

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Having spent nearly 8 years writing Married to Muhammad, working on my poetry chops, learning to write narrative non-fiction, studying history, geography, and birds of the Hijaz; learning Qu’ranic Arabic, falling in love with Hans Wehr’s Arabic dictionary with it’s word chains, re-reading stories about the women I’m researching, finding where they went in Ethiopia, savoring the jungle and obelisks of Aksum and the orchids after years of bleak desert; having punched the “send” button a zillion times to Wendy, my poem-angel, and Art, my Arabic genie; and having pinged the entire manuscript for final edit to Matt, the Walt Whitman Scholar from Duke University,  I can finally say the book is complete. Done. That’s what my name means – Tamam – the path of completion.

Now I study the business of books.  Agents seem slippery and tough as Double O Seven. They appear to have erased their on-line presence and disappeared behind bland listings.  One of them, I’ll call her Peony Smith, has the same name as a famous athlete. Her entries read like this:

*Peony Smith 27, is a 6-ft. 3-in. mini-skirted blonde who loves popcorn, Mission: Impossible and André Kostelanetz. She professes to a belief that “positive thinking …”

*Ms Smith lives in Brooklyn with her cat, Boo Boo. Peony loves to garden and learns from an intense Bible study program.

Her own profile might look like this: Peony Z. Smith Literary Agency specializes in the representation of book authors and the sale of motion picture and television rights. Peony Smith’s interests are in literary fiction, commercial fiction, mysteries and thrillers. In non-fiction she is looking for biography and pop culture…

I printed out the list of “the 20 worst agents in the business.” I pick at my thumb nail, and surf the internet for any agent who might light up at the words “Wives of Prophet Muhammad” and  “Sufi.” I try to imagine them saying those words over lunch in midtown Manhattan. I leaf through my collection of agent names from the publishing seminar and my bookstore research.  I spend hours of hunt and peck to see what shelf my book will grace. It’s a lot like researching what school your not-yet-born-child will walk into for kindergarten. I pick agents from my list and write each a personalized query letter. Michelle Moran’s (Nefertiti) agent never wrote back. An agent whose interests matched my material looks like Suze Orman, which doesn’t feel quite right. In my mind I bond with two agents I’ve found on line, imagine Nathan or Daniel would be pioneering my unusual and exciting book, might chat it up over lunch to an eager publisher. I see myself receiving a friendly note from one, then the other saying, “Tamam, I’ve got a deal, call me!” I picture Peony reading my manuscript late into the night, unable to put it down, like Katheryn Turner’s editor at the end of Romancing the Stone.

But there’s the egg-bound thing that comes with being chicken, or playing chicken with these ultra-serious grown-ups in New York Literary Houses. It makes me shivery, squawky and sullen.

There is a book-birth here somewhere and it’s not over until the book comes out. A favorite story is about the writer, Cris, in New York. Her father introduced us because she is published, so I sent her a page then my proposal, and she offered to introduce me to her agent. Here’s the e-mail:

On Jun 4, 2008, at 5:22 PM, Cris wrote:
Hi Tamam–Good to hear from you. Your book looks amazing. I can’t wait to read it. My agent’s name is Amy W… unfortunately, she’s out on maternity leave right now. I just sent her a note though and asked her what to do–hopefully she’ll get back to me. Maybe she’s still looking at manuscripts, from home? Or maybe she’ll suggest you send it to someone else at the agency…I’ll let you know as soon as I hear. If you want to write to her yourself, you can–her email is…

Maternity leave. I thank her and mention there’s no need to bother a woman who finally got her head away from books long enough to push out a baby and enjoy the fruits of motherhood. Lorin thinks this is funny and tells me I need to write it up. Amy and I are the same but similar, both “with a bump”, as they say in OK Magazine. Pregnant women glow, pregnant book-people glower. Authors tend to be crankier than pregnant women. Probably because they only have the  “aut” part of the word, no capitol A and you ought to do this or ought to do that, I oughta be outa here by now. Of course the second part of the word is hor, as in the beginning of horror, or an extremely demeaning word having to do with what some people might turn into just to get published.

Friday morning with the Grand Mufti

29 Thursday May 2008

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One of the things that made me feel OK about flying to Damascus in November of 2003 was the assurance that we were under the protection of the Grand Mufti of Syria. He had received the Pope on a recent visit, and his son, Dr. Salah Kuftaro, was director of the largest Muslim social service organization in the country. Once in  Damascus, we learned Dr. Kuftaro had invited us to be guests at the Abu Nour Mosque. I rushed off to the souk Thursday night to buy some elegant head scarves for the women in our group. We were told to dress as if we were “…going to church”.  Not so easy. Our peace pilgrimage was all about travel to a remote desert monastery for interfaith dialog. We were asked to bring just what we needed. Lowell came up with a blazer and tie. Shabda wore his silk Indian shirt. Elias dressed in a dignified black mock-turtle neck sweater and a jacket, and the women scrambled for lipstick, city shoes, and a skirt.

We filed into the VIP area of the very large mosque where our host greeted us with affection: “I can’t say you are welcome here, because you are in your very home! There is a lot in common between each of us. I think the most important thing that joins us is the mysticism of Sufism.”

From my seat in the high gallery where the women sat behind a glass wall and listened with headsets to the simultaneous translation from Arabic, I could see the men way below. My husband and Elias, our leader, were seated next to the elderly Grand Mufti. More than one thousand men sat before them.  After the Friday prayers and a short talk, Elias spoke:

“We have come to break through this wall that is being built between the people of the West and the people of the Muslim world. We have been welcomed with kindness & hospitality even though my country has not been kind in its policy toward Syria. …The simple fact that you receive us with such generosity is a great strength of soul and character that is stronger than any weapon of war. Please know that your kindness is… evidence of living Islam”. (The word Islam comes from salaam, and means, “the way of peace.”)

I looked into the faces of the Syrian women near me. They smiled back and nodded. Many were in tears. I was stunned to be part of this brave diplomacy.

“To conclude… to protect our children we must do everything we can to break through the masks that are being painted on our faces.  When we truly meet each other, we will have Peace. Let nothing stop us from getting to know each other.  Shukran. (thank you).”

It was as if the great mosque had become a table of a thousand candles and the women of East and West kept lighting and re-lighting one another as our group of seven were swept into the reception room. Elias received an engraved plaque. I once learned in Morocco the common gesture among women who have prayed together, so I began kissing warm cheeks and quietly repeating: as-Salaam Alaikhum. They seemed to appreciate the contact, even though Syrian Sufi women tend to be reserved.. Wa’laikhum as-Salaam, they whispered back.

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“Before the tongue can speak, it must have lost the power to wound.”
– Peace Pilgrim

caravansarai

14 Wednesday May 2008

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Tamam’s caravansarai blog entries:

caravansarai: an inn, usually with a large courtyard, for the overnight accommodation of caravans

a guesthouse in Delhi
The whole thing was a hair away from being canceled by order of the High Court of India. Shabda and I had flown to India to host and offer workshops to our 74 travel companions before the Hazrat Inayat Khan 80th URS (Wedding Celebration, as the death anniversary is called). If that sounds like a logistical nightmare, it wasn’t. The visit went smoothly thanks to a brilliant organizational team. We stayed at our favorite guesthouse, where the two of us always stay, and this time the owners turned over the entire hotel (and three others) to our group. They went so far as to create a meeting hall and dining area on the lawn outside. Pale lavender cloth was stretched over bamboo scaffolding. The final touch was a carpet of white sheets pulled tightly over a dozen rugs and secured to cover the lawn. The entire front yard and driveway of the guesthouse vanished! We walked out the front door into a glowing pavilion decorated with shadows of outside leaves and birds, as morning light fell on the walls. A shiny green vine wound up an inside tree. For evening, light bars illuminated the white ceiling. A small sound system appeared and a few chairs. Shabda stood in the center with his guitar, Gayan with his djembe (African drum). The travelers circled up, familiar faces and new ones, the India celebration team, seventy-four strong.

We sang zikr and engaged in Dances of Universal Peace. Every morning an early music class was offered. Our Tibetan teacher gave a talk. He had such a good time he came back and gave another one. Breakfast and dinner appeared in the side room on white tables cloths paired with white canvas covered chairs. We ate naan and mixed vege with dahl and rice, raita and butter chicken. We drank chai and told each other stories, planned quick trips to the tailor and Cottage Emporium. We laughed a lot.

Our program was ambitious and full-out. We were host to several hundred more Europeans, Americans, and Indians who felt the connection to Hazrat Inayat Khan, the Chisti Sufi classical musician who brought the Message to the West in 1910. We were here to celebrate. Shabda had designed a three-day classical music program. My favorite event was Shri Bahauddin Dagar playing rudra veena accompanied by the pakawaj drum late into the night. Because I am studying the drum, I listened closely to the pakawaj with its refined and haunting tones. It seemed to play deep inside my body.  There were eight master musician concerts in two days. The day of the big celebration, the Dargha was packed with people. For the first time in 80 years, women led the procession, carrying the tomb cloth from one tomb to another – Taj Inayat, Zuleikha and myself and other women joined in.

A week later, the remaining five of us were invited to the beautiful home of the Hemant and Nalini Ahuja, owners of our guest house. Nalini Ahuja offered us a spectacular meal. We were joined by her daughter, Namita, the one who facilitated the tent, the group accommodation, and created the menus. They were there every day to check on how the staff performed.

As we sat down to pre-dinner refreshments a remarkable story unfolded. It seems that the High Court recently handed down an order to limit the sprawl of shops and businesses through the residential neighborhoods in New Delhi. Unlike America, where such new laws apply to new licensing, sparing the old legal contracts, the government appointed officials began to target shops and small hotels and guesthouses that had been in existence for decades, for closure – with just a few hours notice. Never mind that it was peak tourist season in Delhi and rooms were at a tremendous shortage.

On January 24th, while Shabda and I were in the air on our way to India, Hemant received notice that our guesthouse was targeted to be sealed within 24 hours!  As President of The Association of guesthouses for New Delhi he was the one in the hot seat. What would happen to the hotel, and the other guesthouses we used? Where would the 74 people stay? Delhi hotels are as expensive now as those in San Francisco.

Hemant went on, “The Secretary of the association even had his own guesthouse sealed. We removed the computers and important things from the office, preparing for the worst. The other owners were calling, distraught. They told him, ‘We can do nothing, help us. They just come and seal!’ ”

“We were all so nervous,” said Namita. The story continued. Hemant swung into action. Armed with the sarai (as in caravan sarai) documents which granted him permission to run a guesthouse, issued by the government in 1980, he went to see the officials in the afternoon.

Nothing was said about this the entire time we stayed at the hotel. Now each of us sat there contemplating how the URS festivities could never have manifested without our home base, or for that matter, housing – in the oh-so-tight tourist room market. It was unthinkable.  Pleading his case, demonstrating his constant goodwill and sound business practice, and an appeal on what to do with the 74 people arriving who had made reservations nearly a year ago and had paid their stay in full in advance, finally the High court relented asking that appropriate taxes be paid (hmm, taxes or bribes?). He paid ten and-a-half laks (about $25,000), and was back in business. He saved the guesthouse from closure on the day we arrived! He also saved the two other small hotels we used.

“I had so much faith that it would turn out well”, he told us.

My New Space

10 Monday Mar 2008

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I’m moving from my website to a blog. The virtual moving van is out-front parked in webspace, and Ammon is lifting the boxes of stuff, helping with decisions, and instructing the movers. I’m going from full-screen-and-floaty-looking to columns. From nailed-down furniture to long four-inchers I can scoot here or there. Hang my own pictures, Pick a color.

My book is being asked to leave home after the move. It complains that it needs a really good place to go first. Fine with me, just do it. I’ll buy the platform shoes and send out the querys. I’ll make a plug:

Married to Muhammad, Untold History of the Prophet’s Wives
by Tamam Kahn

Until now the wives of Muhammad were celebrated and revered primarily in the Arabic-speaking world. In these times, when understanding and tolerance for religious and cultural differences is increasingly crucial, it is urgent to bring these women forward, to present the message of their humanity.
Wives connects the Western reader with the most famous women in the Muslim world and demystifies them; those who were married to Prophet Muhammad and stood in the first light of Islam. The book’s unusual format, prosimetrum, employs smooth narrative non-fiction peppered with short, lyric poems.

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